The Undeniable Super Powers of a Dad

Every Dad has super powers. In fact, if you are a dad, you do not have the ability to NOT have them. You just do—so you had better embrace it. Fathers have a special way to influence their families that creates a ripple effect for generations to come. This is a huge responsibility, and I would like to state this clearly: you do not have the power to refuse this super power. You will either use your powers for good or for evil—there is no settling and no middle ground.

illustration: father pointing child from the word PAST to the word FUTURE

Take a few cleansing breaths and relax, lest your throat close in an anaphylactic shock. To use your super powers for good, you do not have to battle an army of orcs, you do not have to become materially wealthy, and you do not have to win an Ironman competition. The best ways to positively affect the next generations is to:

  • Love God out loud so your kids can see it.
  • Love your kids out loud so they will calmly take it all for granted.

I know it sounds nuts, so let’s focus on the second thing. I encourage you to believe that you want your kids to take a lot of stuff for granted.

Your kids should take it for granted that their family will always be together. Your kids should take it for granted that they have to take care of their own messes. Your kids should take it for granted that they are loved just because they are alive—not because they are achieving or competing or doing anything particularly well. Your kids should feel loved just because they are your children.

When a dad proves these things, it will be a blessing to his great, great, and greater-still grandchildren. How can we do this? Great question. There are many ways to instill these truths every day. Right now, the obvious situation stems from school being back in session. There is excitement and fear, anticipation and perhaps even some dread. Dads, take the time to talk to your children. Sit down on the couch and tell your kids how you felt at their age. Tell them whether you felt alone or fearful. Tell them you needed a friend—tell them whatever you may have felt at the time. Tell them the things you did well and the things you failed at. For one thing, your kids will be amazed that you were ever their age, and more importantly, they will be comforted that you would share your story with them.

Then tell them how you got through. Tell them you love them and that you will pray with them and for them as this school year begins. While you’re at it, make the communication extend beyond the verbal. Write a note on their lunch box napkin. Even when you are not physically there, your actions will make their hearts soar. Tell them you love them in new ways you have not before. Use your super powers to make them take your love and affection for granted. Future generations will thank you and believe you were, indeed, quite super.

“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.”

Deuteronomy 6:6-9

 

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  • Dave Carl

    Dave Carl is the Family Ministries Pastor at Stonebriar Community Church and is responsible for the ministry focusing on children birth through high school graduation and the parents who love them. With a ministry philosophy based on Luke 10:27, his primary focus is to give parents the skills to raise kids who truly love Jesus and want to serve others. Dave has a passion for ministering to families in crisis in our community. He has spent several years pouring into fathers and husbands and helping them learn that they need community, were designed to guard and protect, and that they really can be the spiritual leaders of their family.

    Dave and his wife of 30 plus years, Cathy, have two adult children and one in college and grandparents to three amazing children. They are completely in love with these new member of their family. Dave is an avid woodworker and loves to write. He sees all stories in the form of pictures, and he would love to connect with you!

2 Comments

  1. Rebecca Johnson
    August 19, 2015

    This really spoke to me! Dads ARE superheroes and they don’t get enough credit! My husband, Mark, embodies all you spoke about and I’m so grateful our son and foster daughter have him.

    1. Gabbie
      August 19, 2015

      Rebecca~I feel the same way!!! And being a mom of two boys, I want them to grow up and be superheroes like their dad, too:).
      …Gabbie

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