Parenting Pathway Podcast: Written and Recorded by Family Ministry Pastor Dave Carl
We see this in our ministry to teens and families more than you would think. We meet a family in crisis because the husband is having an affair, or the wife is emotionally disconnected. We meet teens who have watched hours and hours of porn to the extent that they are isolated, scared, and depressed by the trap they have created. We meet young girls who are trapped in relationship cycles of being a sex predator or prey. In every one of these situations and more, we find people who have willingly trained like Olympic athletes for a life wrapped in sin. They have convinced themselves that at any point, they can walk away, ask God for forgiveness, and go about their lives as if nothing happened.
They simply follow the impulses they have given themselves over to, which are all in direct opposition to the things that deep, safe, intimate, and soul-satisfying relationships are supposed to provide. They have been deceived into thinking that they are free to “have their cake and eat it too”. They have chosen to have only brief sexual encounters and live without the very things their hearts were created to thrive in.
As to the forgiveness issue… Yes, of course God forgives us of our sins and even of our stupidity. Forgiveness, however, is not transactional, it is relational. You cannot ask for forgiveness for something you plan to do again tomorrow and receive forgiveness. In this instance, you are not even asking for forgiveness; you are asking for immunity so that you don’t suffer consequences.
Pastor Dave Carl has written and recorded a unique story this week that speaks to the heart of this issue. Training for a lifetime of sin is the opposite of what we are called to do. And, I would guess, is the opposite of what your heart truly desires in the long run.
If you find yourself trapped in a cycle of sin and want to change that pattern, there are strong Christians here at Stonebriar Community Church who want to help. Just connect with us. We will walk with you, encourage you, and share our own stories.
If you would prefer a printed copy of this story, you can download one here: I’ll Have My Cake and Eat It Too, Please!
Dave Carl is the Family Ministry Pastor at Stonebriar Community Church and is responsible for the ministry focusing on children birth through graduation and the parents who love them. With a ministry philosophy based on Luke 10:27, his primary focus is to give parents the skills to raise kids who truly love Jesus and want to serve others. Dave has a passion for ministering to families in crisis in our community. He has spent several years pouring into fathers and husbands and helping them learn that they need community, were designed to guard and protect, and that they really can be the spiritual leaders of their family.
Dave and his wife of 20 plus years, Cathy, have two adult children and one in high school and recently became grandparents for the first time. They are completely in love with this new member of their family. Dave is an avid woodworker and loves to write. He sees all stories in the form of pictures in his head, and he would love to connect with you!